Tuesday 11 April 2017

Being Leela Abraham


*CAUTION: SPOILERS AHEAD*

Passive-abusive relationship is what Mani Ratnam penned down for Katru Veliyidai, but unfortunately never decided to show things from Leela's perspective. Leela Abraham, the character played by Aditi Rao Hydari is the sad reality many women live in.

Meeting a guy like VC (Karthi) who looks ideal from a distance but actually a perfectly flawed human who is ruled by male chauvinism and a huge ego trip. VC eventually repented is what the movie showed, but did he really or was it all a lip service, nobody knows.

Leela was portrayed to be a strong educated woman, in a romantic yet destructive relationship, but never really did much to fight it back. There was even a scene where she said that she's been treated as a "pet dog" but later portrayed as a trophy girlfriend when VC mentions that the boys must buy him a single malt because she comes back with him.
When these two polar opposites fall in love, as a viewer I loved and hated both of them for who they were. Especially Leela. How can you love a guy who forgets your marriage registration, especially when he plans it?! Well, it's obvious that VC fell for Leela's beauty and thrilled her heart, by being a strong experienced man and a daredevil, he caught the naive girl's attention with grand gestures, like sending her videos and bringing her across Himalayas.

To those out there who are thinking that this is just a movie, put aside the Kagil War, their relationship isn't all fantasy. It's the reality we live in. We've all seen a VC in our lives, who still completely disagree with woman having her independent thoughts. "Dude, how can Hillary Clinton run the country?" Let's not pretend this is something new, shall we?





The funny thing is, there are many women out there who succumb to such toxic relationships thinking this is "love"; like what Dr Nidhi (Leela's friend) said. Women out there are supposed to know that it's not okay to be unaware of your place in a relationship, regardless with whom it is; especially with your loved ones.

My heart cried when Leela didn't fight back every single time VC shouted "shut up", and when VC said he will love her more than she will no matter what. In the movie maybe it's true, but I have seen this with my own eyes, and guess what, that's not the case. VC thinks Leela is important, VC thinks he loves her but what Nidhi said is truest thing in the script. VC only loves himself and all the VCs out there only love themselves.

It all falls back to Leela's naivety, that giving in to the male's ego is probably what she has been taught to do, all her life. Her father Prakash Abraham, for an example, so much ego, and when he said he doesn't want VC there in the funeral, the wife followed his order, no questions asked. In reality,  look around; we are all living in an undeniable patriarchal society, when men is the default leader of a family, or any relationships. Maybe that's what got Leela pregnant. And maybe the logic is what led to so many pregnancies out of wedlock around us today.

                                     
Leela, a woman who wanted to stand for herself but didn't know how to in front of the man she loves. And this, for me did not make a feel good movie. In fact it humanized the devil that lives inside a man and made it seem "ok", but girls, please know that it's not okay for a man to treat you like a rubbish, anytime.

Neither Leela nor VC was perfect, so don't be a Leela or a VC. If you think that a relationship is what gonna change you for the better, don't do it.  And if you're in a relationship like VC and Leela, end the toxic right away and move on with your life. It might hurt now, but one day you'll not care anymore. Don't worry, you'll get there. And trust me, when you find your soulmate, all of these will be a fruitful lesson to carry, and you wouldn't take what you have for granted

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9 comments:

  1. At least u understand the true meaning of the film.. Women's should never be dependent.. For the sake of film, it ended VC and Leela got together in the end.. But in real life, lots of single mother as a result of irresponsible character as VC.. Wake up girls, its not "love" if you are in such abusive relationship.. You are educated and well prepared to be independent.. Go fulfill your dreams girls.. Soulmate is someone be there supportive in every issues in your life not abusive..

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    1. Agree with you on every point. Although the film may have ended showing they got back together but that doesn't mean he wouldn't leave her again or abuse her in any way. Nice feedback

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    2. True.Not all VCs turn over a new leaf along the way

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  2. Well written bro... Truly a thought provoking article with points that should be reflected upon and critically analyzed by society..

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    1. Thanks alot bro! It was actually written by my other writer!

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    2. kudos to both of you... keep up the splendid work.. :)

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  3. it simple it all ABOUT LOVE LOVE LOVE When you in love all the bad things others person u will try to ignore but still will be there , There many guys who are like Karthik very self center in life, in Life we have move on in whatever situations we are.You could marvel at every frame, you could applaud Mani Ratnam’s portrayal of a woman who fights falling in love with an arrogant and self-obsessed man. It happens often in daliy life most of the time we never appreciates a person when still with us . the movie talks on equal between a men and women.

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    1. Yeah I think the film speaks on a couple of themes with one being the power of love to empower you and also that when you lose someone is when you appreciate them more just like what you said bro. That was a good analysis.. Thanks!

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  4. Absolutely what I thought Katru Veliyidai was about, this write up is on point. I mean unless someone has lived this sorta life or has delved into deeper shades of similar relationship this movie would not have probably been understood by the common mass. The ending, isn't what reality is but it does give one hope. And for that I'm hopefully too maybe one may change. Far away from the typical entertainer this movie instead is about delivering a message of awareness. The truth masked in layers of 'love' & that abuse is merely physical.

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